I want you to take a few minutes out of your day and take a test. Don’t be afraid; it’s not a pass-fail test, but I think it can help you evaluate the way you talk.
Below are ten questions for your personal evaluation. You can answer them in your head, but if you want to write out your answers and discuss them with your spouse, a friend, or in your small group, click here to download the printable PDF.
1. Does your talk with others lead to problem solving?
2. Does your talk with others have a ‘me against them’ or a ‘stand-together’ posture to it?
3. Do your words encourage others to be open and honest about their true thoughts and feelings?
4. Are you approachable and teachable or defensive and self-protective when talking to others?
5. Is your communication healthy in its relationship to how it structures the relationships in your life?
6. Does your talk encourage others and stimulate them to grow?
7. Do you talk to others in order to develop relationships with them, or do you only talk to solve problems in times of trouble?
8. Do you speak words of confession when necessary and words of forgiveness when needed?
9. Do your words reflect a willingness to serve others or demand that you be served?
10. As you face struggles in your talk, do you feel all alone, misunderstood, hopeless, and discouraged, or have you sought and found God’s help?
If you would like to learn more about the human struggle with talk, click here to listen to my current radio series on Godly communication.We’ve entitled the series “What About Your Talk?” and I think it will help you to learn more about your struggle and God’s purpose for your words.
Check back each Saturday for a new episode. You can listen right here on my website, or you can subscribe to Right Here, Right Now on my iTunes podcast.