Perception vs reality……..

Perception vs reality……..

It’s 8:45pm, and Lo and I are sitting here in her bed, each of us reading and writing. It feels peaceful and quiet…. something we cherish these days. Another day is over. The whirlwind has settled for today. Jeff is sleeping in his chair, as he couldn’t stay awake.

So many ask how Lo is doing? It’s such a loaded question, and the answer depends on what minute it is. There are so many avenues, physically, emotionally or spiritually, and even these change in an instant. So much of the time it’s hard to describe in words. Jeff said many weeks ago, “we take 12 hours at a time”, and sometimes that’s our only answer.

It’s best described as a “roller coaster” ride…….up, down, fast, slow, climbing, descending, winding, straight…….All in the same breath, we may find ourselves grateful, mad, laughing, or sad. We may be smiling one minute and crying the next.

Lo’s physical pain has diminished some! She’s excited to have started blogging a bit, and getting stronger in her rehab. It’s a long, tough road ahead, but her faith in Jesus is what carries her! She’s a fighter and will not give up!

She’s trusting God to renew her strength (Isaiah 40:31), and to keep her focused on the things that are eternal. This is a great reminder for all of us!

As 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “so we do not lose heart….though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison as we look not to the things that are seen, but the things that are unseen.”

As we think about this, and all that God is teaching us in such a time as this, we have been constantly reminded of the battle between the flesh and the spirit, and how important it is to present our bodies as living sacrifices, not to be conformed to this age, but that we must be transformed by the renewing of our minds.(Romans 12:1-2).

We have had to ask God to help us live by the Spirit……as it hasn’t been easy. We ask Him to continually renew our minds. Some days it seems impossible to live by the fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:22).

Don’t we all struggle with this?

Please pray for Lo to continue to gain strength physically, to be renewed emotionally, and to continue to rely on Jesus to carry her.

Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, and Biblical counselors, not LPC's. Their writings include the widely used book I Do Again, which chronicles their thirty-year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and remarriage to each other. Jeff and Cheryl are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in Dallas. They speak at conferences and weekend worship services in churches across the nation, sharing their love story of hope, redemption, restoration, and God taking hold of their lives. See their website:

This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Keith C. Brown

    Dear Jeff and Cheryl,
    Thank you once again for your faith. I know the challenges can be overwhelming at times. Yet, you have seen the Lord lift you, not around, but through them. And in having witnessed this, you know it was God who was leading. Thank you for your courage and conviction. You may not know what good God is doing through you and your family. I remember and reflect upon you and what God is doing through you each week.
    Your friend, fellow-sufferer and fellow-servant,

  2. Connie Carreker

    My prayers continue to be with the entire family every morning joining together with my husband Denny. God speed. Connie

  3. Raymond. C. Owens

    Dear Jeff/Cheryl: I am praying for Lo, as you requested.—–I thank God for your story. I have purchased several of your books to give away. Mine to keep reading over/over.I am still thanking God for Cheryl’s lesson: IS THIS. Even thou we may have grown up in church/said ‘THE’ prayer. We are bound for hell, until we repent/trust Jesus. We see this is evident in her life style/words after she answered the call of the Holy Spirit to repent/be saved. MANY thanks for your story/marriage/ministry. Num. 6:24-26.————MAY I please ask you’ll to pray for my wife Diane’s, salvation. &, for her to end her separation/lack of ALL communication with me since July 2008. &, return to our marriage home where she belongs?

  4. Alicia Nygaard Formagus

    Absolutely DONE!!! Love her so…

  5. Monique

    Praying for your family. Thank God for the grace He gives that allows you to share your heart. Be well.

  6. Joanna Montes

    Praying for your family! Believing that He will give you all supernatural peace.

    Lo is so beautiful, it is so good to know that she is blogging again. I know that we are merely strangers, but it is amazing the impact that a stranger can have on someone! Your story will touch more lives than you ever know, just like Lo’s testimony will touch the hearts of many. Keep pressing forward! Do not grow weary in well doing!
    “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jerimiah 29:11

    Thank you for telling your story and your willingness to be open!

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