Gary Thomas has given us a brilliant writing on marriage, in his book Sacred Marriage! As we counsel, and use this book in our practice, we continually are reminded of the many things God tells us about marriage.
Chapter 2 helps us with a point that needs to be engrained deep in our soul.
“Knowing why we are married and should stay married is crucial. The key question is this: Will we approach marriage from a God-centered view or a man-centered view? In a man-centered view, we will maintain our marriage as long as our earthly comforts, desires, and expectations are met. In a God-centered view, we preserve our marriage because it brings glory to God and points a sinful world to a reconciling Creator!” (pg 32)
“The first purpose in marriage– beyond happiness, sexual expression, the bearing of children, companionship, mutual care and provision, or anything else– is to please God. The challenge, of course, is that it is utterly selfless living; rather than asking, “What will make me happy?” we are told that we must ask, “What will make God happy?”
And just in case we don’t grasp it immediately, Paul underscores it a few verses later: “Those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again” (2 Corinthians 5:15) (pg 33)
You don’t want to miss this great book! Thank you Gary!