A Word to Husbands (And a Few More for Wives): 1 Peter 3:1-7 by Joshua Harris

In the recent edition of The Journal of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, Joshua Harris

contributes an incredible article from 1 Peter 3: 1-7.

Here is an excerpt:

“The myth of the perfect spouse is one that can influence many of us. As Christians we can even put our own spiritual spin on it and think, “It would be easier to obey what God tells me to do as a wife, if I just had a different husband.” Or “I could cherish and be understanding if I were married to a more cherishable and understandable woman.”

We don’t need to wait for a study to know that this is wrong. God’s Word to husbands and wives in 1 Peter 3 isn’t qualified. It doesn’t say, “If your husband deserves it, be submissive.” It doesn’t say, “If your wife gives you respect, then you honor her.””

Read here

Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, and Biblical counselors, not LPC's. Their writings include the widely used book I Do Again, which chronicles their thirty-year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and remarriage to each other. Jeff and Cheryl are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in Dallas. They speak at conferences and weekend worship services in churches across the nation, sharing their love story of hope, redemption, restoration, and God taking hold of their lives. See their website: www.hopeformarriages.com.

This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Alicia Manning

    Very good article, thanks for posting!

  2. John Dawson

    Good questions, by this author, for husbands to ask their wives…Do you feel honored by the way I treat you? Do I honor you before others through my words and actions? Do I honor you in front of our kids?

  3. Ingrid

    Thank you for sharing! God bless you.

  4. Melissa

    HI Cheryl,

    It has been a while since I have posted. I have gone through my rollercoaster of emotions over the last several months. I have a question for you. How did you not give up hope???? I read my ex-husband a letter about 2 months ago pouring my heart out to him. I could not have been any more raw with my emotions and I know it was emotional for him as well. The topic of reconciliation did come up and honestly does scare both of us considering where we have been. I told him that despite the fear, I am willing to try. At that point he told me he was seeing someone….UGH!! Daggers!! Although strangly there is a part of me that tells myself he needs to do this for his own self-worth, I wonder if he will ever come back to me. My daughters and I had a talk about our divorce last night and it is still so sad for all of us. I just want my family back and I dont know how to keep hoping! Can you (or anyone for that matter) provide some words of encouragement?


    1. cherylscruggs

      Hard not to give up sometimes, but keep your focus and allow God to work. Satan wants you to give up trying.
      Anyone else?

      1. Stephanie

        During my darkest days, I felt an urging to reconcile but it just seemed so impossible and our lives were one big ugly mess! My ex was in a serious relationship AND she lives across the street from me! I asked God everyday to make something beautiful out of my mess as he so often has in the world. Then as difficult as it was, I put my future in His hands and worked on my relationship with God. I also held on tightly to Phillipians 4:8 and submerged myself in some awesome Godly books, music etc. to keep discouragement out and God in. I’ll be praying for you!

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