Do you tear your husband down or build him up? Do you give him a safe place to be able to lead you?
“Humiliation is the most devastating weapon to a man’s confidence. Marriage, ideally, should be a place of refuge from a world filled with criticism and rejection. Unfortunately, the home is sometimes the place where men experience the greatest humiliation. Instead of building her husband’s confidence, a wife can easily use words to destroy her husband’s capacity to lead.” (ref Pg 117 in “Finding the Hero in Your Husband”)
Humiliation in the home is destructive. It is certainly destructive to both a wife and a husband. A husband who constantly puts his wife down is not meeting her needs to be valued and protected as a woman. A wife who humiliates her husband is doing the exact opposite of showing him respect. She is telling him and the world that he is an incapable man who does not deserve respect (Eph 5). It is nearly impossible for a couple to experience intimacy in their marriage when there is an atmosphere tainted by humiliation.