Tip of the Week for Wives

The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
Proverbs 14:1

Do you tear your husband down or build him up? Do you give him a safe place to be able to lead you?

“Humiliation is the most devastating weapon to a man’s confidence. Marriage, ideally, should be a place of refuge from a world filled with criticism and rejection. Unfortunately, the home is sometimes the place where men experience the greatest humiliation. Instead of building her husband’s confidence, a wife can easily use words to destroy her husband’s capacity to lead.” (ref Pg 117 in “Finding the Hero in Your Husband”)

Humiliation in the home is destructive. It is certainly destructive to both a wife and a husband. A husband who constantly puts his wife down is not meeting her needs to be valued and protected as a woman. A wife who humiliates her husband is doing the exact opposite of showing him respect.  She is telling him and the world that he is an incapable man who does not deserve respect (Eph 5). It is nearly impossible for a couple to experience intimacy in their marriage when there is an atmosphere tainted by humiliation.

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Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, and Biblical counselors, not LPC's. Their writings include the widely used book I Do Again, which chronicles their thirty-year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and remarriage to each other. Jeff and Cheryl are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in Dallas. They speak at conferences and weekend worship services in churches across the nation, sharing their love story of hope, redemption, restoration, and God taking hold of their lives. See their website: www.hopeformarriages.com.

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