Wonder why you and your husband aren’t intimately close? It’s not that hard to pinpoint.
The level of communication you have with each other equals a major part of your level of intimacy with each other.
Great communication takes effort and vulnerability. Gary Chapman, in his book, Now You’re Speaking My Language, mentions there are 5 levels of communication, but
Unfortunately, most couples never get beyond level 1 or 2 in their entire marriage.
This brings to mind John 10:10, ” the thief comes to kill. steal and destroy, and i have come to give you life and give it to you abundantly.” God designed marriage to be abundant, and the level of communication we have in our marriage plays a major role in this.
The five levels of communication from Now You’re Speaking My Language, :
Level 1 = Hallway Talk “Fine, how are you?” Level 2 = Reporter Talk ” Just give me the facts” – This involves only the facts: who, what, when, where Level 3 = Intellectual Talk ” Do you know what I think?” – This goes beyond facts to sharing opinions, interpretations or judgments about the matter Level 4 = Emotional Talk ” Let me tell you how I feel” – This is where we share our emotions about things Level 5 = Loving, Genuine Truth Talk ” Let’s be honest” – This is the apex of communication. This level is the platform upon which we can build a healthy marriage with a high degree of intimacyDon’t miss the nuggets in this book!
