“An affair is an escape from reality”…..Steve Farrar

“An affair is an escape from reality”…..Steve Farrar

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9 Responses to “An affair is an escape from reality”…..Steve Farrar

  1. Melissa

    I couldn’t agree more. My reality was my own pain and I turned it onto my ex-husband so that I had someone to blame for how bad I was feeling. I never once thought to turn to God to restore me. I have so many regrets now and cry each night thinking that my ex has found somone new. I fight Satan everyday, multiple times a day with thoughts of doubt of reconciliation. I have thought of sending my ex Jeff and Cheryl’s book, a piece from one of the videos, reading a letter I wrote to him but each time I come close I become overtaken with fear. I have worked so hard on handing over my fears and worries to God yet this particular one gets me every time! I escaped reality by being unfaithful and now my reality is trying to put my life back together.

    • waitinonGodtorestore

      I don’t intend to yell, my caps were on before I knew it–sorry

      The answer is to PRAY PRAY PRAY PRAY

      VISIT REJOICE MARRIAGE MINISTRIES –YOU WILL GET HOPE
      http://WWW.REJoiceministries.org/stop_divorce_radio/

      Don’t give up.

      i GO TO THE SCRUGGS WHEN i NEED TO SEE VIDEOS OF MARRIAGE RESTORATION
      i GO TO rmm WHEN i NEED TO HEAR THAT MARRIAGE RESTORATION IS POSSIBLE
      READ RESTORATION SCRIPTURES. PUT YOUR SPOUSE’S NAME IN THE SCRIPTURES
      PRAY THE WHOLE ARMOUR OF GOD ON YOUR SPOUSE DAILY
      i AM PRAYING WITH YOU. i AM PRAYING WITH YOU. ouR MARRIAGES WILL BE RESTORED

  2. Diane

    Melissa, as a wounded spouse, I am patiently waiting for my husband of 23 years to return to our family. From your post, I realize how hard it will be for him, and he has rejected my offers over and over. I encourage you to copy and paste this post – Yours and mine – and sent it with the book. You already said what you need to say. And ask God for the strength. Only satan would put fear and doubt in your mind. God gives love, joy, hope and faith.

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Diane. I actually emailed him this week and asked him if there was a time we could get together so I could read him the letter I wrote. He asked me what it was about and I said that it had answers to some questions he had been asking in the past. I also told him it was not blaming or negative…just from my heart. He responded by telling me to email it to him and when he had time he would read it! I died!! I told him that that was not an option. That it would be better if I read it face to face because I’m sure he will have some questions. He said he doesnt know if he has the emotional strength anymore. I told him that when he feels he does, to let me know so we can get together. So the letter sits in front of me right now on my desk. Thank you for your advice. I am going to go to church today and purchase a book for him. when God feels the time is right for us to get together for me to read the letter, I am going to give him the book.

      • Diane Kingsley-Roach

        Galatians 5:22 Love, Joy, Peace, PATIENCE…
        and 1Peter 3:9 Do not repay evil for evil…
        I am praying for you Melissa, and all others in your situation. Goodness can overcome.

        • Ted

          Working toward healing a relationship is very different than working toward reconciling one. In healing the objective is to restore wholeness and health of a person or persons.

          If your motives and actions toward your ex are committed to healing wounds emotionally and spiritually, that is Christ-centered caring, instead of self-centered caring.

          This will speak volumes to your ex of the repentance and forgiveness you’ve experienced (and continue to seek) on your journey toward your own healing.

          Be encouraged, healing from Christ is a promise but reconciliation to a past relationship is not. Regardless, He has a plan for you (pain and all) and it will include love, joy and hope in your life.

          Ted

          • Douglas

            Hi Ted, That is great insight, not just for recovering from adultery but any kind of hurts that spouses put on another. If I were ever to hurt my wife super badly (sloppy vocabulary)I would hope I would focus on HER healing before MY reconciliation with her. (Healing would lead to a better reconciliation anyway. I hope there are many people reading what you wrote. This has helped me and thank you !!

          • waitinonGodtorestore

            Reconciliation is possible. Mark 10:27 says that with God all things are possible. In this process God can heal you. Healing yourself is very important and necessary. Let God heal your spouse. God has a purpose and a plan for your life Jeremiah 29:11.
            Do not give up on your marriage. Do not give up. Don’t give up because of what anyone else says. Listen carefully to what God is saying to you about your marriage. Ask God to rekindle your spouse’s love toward you.
            With God all things are possible.

  3. Hurtingyethopeful

    Thk u waitinonGodtorestore. Today was one of those hard days when I felt truly hopeless and had outside encouragement to seek divorce. But I DO believe all things r possible with God. Your words encouraged me today at such a time I really needed it. I thank God for leading me to them. I am not giving up and pray God will rekindle my husband’s love for me.

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