There’s something about simplicity…….

There’s something to say about simplicity, isn’t there? Every day in our counseling practice we hear, “we are just so busy, we don’t have time to spend time with each other ………the kids this, the kids that; my work etc.” We are all busy aren’t we? But the thing to contemplate is “what is really important?”

Jeff and I were reminded a couple of weeks ago that much of our busyness depends on us. It helped us to reflect once again on what is important.

God gave us a gift the first part of August. We were the hosts for the Sky Ranch Family Camp in Colorado for a week. We flew from Dallas and had an 1 1/2 hour drive to the camp. Before we hit the road, we stopped at a small country restaurant for a great breakfast and then headed into the mountains. They actually had Sirius radio in our rental car so we listened to some wonderful music as we talked and admired the beauty before us!

We arrived at the camp too early, so drove to the nearest “city”, Lake City. We landed at Mean Jeans Coffee Shop for a cup of joe. This started a week of reflection.

What do we really need in life? We were forced to slow down. To reflect. To think. To pray. We left Mean Jeans and drove to the camp. We were met by enthusiastic young counselors welcoming us and the 10 families that we would spend the week with. They insisted on taking our bags to our 250 foot square cabin. And this cabin was our haven for the week. 250 square feet…… Enough for what we needed. A bed, a small kitchen, a bathroom with a shower.

We had no internet or phone service. The first 24 hours was a bit weird without the technology, but this soon was a delight. We hung out with all the families and built some incredible relationships during our stay.

The question we came back with was: WHAT DO WE REALLY NEED IN THIS LIFE?

Would love your comments……….

Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, and Biblical counselors, not LPC's. Their writings include the widely used book I Do Again, which chronicles their thirty-year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and remarriage to each other. Jeff and Cheryl are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in Dallas. They speak at conferences and weekend worship services in churches across the nation, sharing their love story of hope, redemption, restoration, and God taking hold of their lives. See their website:

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  1. Lauren

    I love this…such a great reminder. Love you!

    1. cherylscruggs

      Thanks for the comment LOLA!

  2. Brandon Wiechmann

    I have to be intentional about scheduling times like this for myself and now for the both of us. Otherwise, I will always be too busy. I am blessed to be be “too busy” with a lot of great things… so no complaint there. But, nonetheless I still must force time away without phone/internet so that I can truly unplug and listen to the quiet of my soul. Over the last few years, reflective weekends have become my favorite times – even over many other so called exciting things (like Gator national championships, etc. – j/k). Without these times I can assure you that I can lose touch with myself quickly.

    To answer your question, we need MUCH less than we fill our lives with. We live in a culture that is constantly engaged – texting/twitter/facebook… and it is all in our fingertips, every second of the day. We don’t NEED these things in the quantities that we tend to use them. They can be great tools, but they can also quickly deteriorate other areas of our lives without us even noticing. We have to be intentional with our time! At the end of the day, I ask myself what does my schedule have on it and does that align with my purpose for existence (God’s glory). If it doesn’t then I dig deeper and often times ditch it from my calendar to free space for “reflective time” or for time with my wife and I. For me, asking that question helps me align my calendar in a way that essentially answers your question: “What do we really NEED in this life?” Need is the most important word in the question you’ve posed.

    1. cherylscruggs

      Thanks for comment Brandon!

  3. Kim deRoos

    My husband and I have done this once in our marriage where we simplified down to a 500sq ft houseboat on a beautiful lake in Tn surrounded by mountains and God’s beauty for 10 months and to be honest it was the 10 best months of our married life. No internet and barely phone was so pleasant and I’d do it all over again WHEN God ordains it. We spent time in His word and focused on US as a couple feeding the others needs over cleaning a big house or mowing a huge lawn or managing high mortgage payments. It was the best and I would encourage it for every married couple ~ struggling or not. The world tells us we need to be one way while God shows us we really NEED to be HIS way, and I don’t believe His way is filled with a busy life of distractions with tugs and pulls away from the most important which is time with Him and time together as a married couple. This year my husband and I are on a Sabbatical with the LORD and traveling and spending much time together and so far with this being April, the stresses of a busy world have NOT been missed!! Looking forward to seeing what God has for us next 🙂
    Enjoyed your testimony and site and hope to hear your hearts in person someday but first things first ~ take care of Lauren!! Blessings to you all and prayers highly lifted up!

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