1 Peter 3…Happy about submission………? Absolutely!

Hi Gals,
We are still in 1 Peter 3! The dreaded topic of submission is the topic for today. Is it a dreaded topic for you? What if we decide to have a different attitude about it, and see it as a joy and not drudgery?

I didn’t like the word submission when I first heard it. I thought it meant I was to become a doormat and not be able to voice my thoughts or opinions. I was afraid of it, actually, but when I finally understood God’s plan for it, I felt relief! Part of my problem was trying to control everything and not having faith enough in God that He could control my life and my husband. Once I understood that I was called to be a helpmate to my husband, encourage and lift him up in his leadership in our marriage and family, then I felt a peace and order in my life. The reason I felt such order and peace is because I was finally following God’s plan, not my own.

Submission means we are to voluntarily submit to our husband’s authority with a joyful and supportive attitude. Many of us follow his leadership with resentment, and sometimes, anger.

Ladies, when you become your husband’s biggest supporter and intimate friend, he will draw closer to you and not drift from you. Be his biggest fan!


Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, and Biblical counselors, not LPC's. Their writings include the widely used book I Do Again, which chronicles their thirty-year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and remarriage to each other. Jeff and Cheryl are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in Dallas. They speak at conferences and weekend worship services in churches across the nation, sharing their love story of hope, redemption, restoration, and God taking hold of their lives. See their website: www.hopeformarriages.com.

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  1. pam rickner

    Very well said..amen and amen.

  2. Stephanie B.

    I've always blamed my husband for the fact that I had to move in and take on the leadership role in my family. I have read these verses but I've never truly thought about how I have been chosing to force my way into that role rather than trusting the Lord to win him over and cultivate a leader through my support and behavior. My repentance starts today!

  3. lj

    Only after reading your book and scripture, did I realize I am to submit to my husband before my children. I had always put my children first and wondered why there were always arguments about who I loved more.I divorced my husband over a year ago, andhave been separated for over 3 1/2 years. He's been praying for me all these years, until recently he told me he was dating someone. I felt someone (God) telling me to restore my marriage. It was so surreal and I had a hard time believing that was what I am suppose to do. It was almost funny and I told my ex what I felt and began to laugh at such a silly notion. I haven't even thought about restoring our marriage in years. I've been praying day and night fervently and have stressed myself out so bad, I now have back surgery to look forward to. I started a daily journal prior to finding your book, which only confirmed I must be doing the right thing. I started back to Church with my kids and going every time the doors are open. I have to limp in using a cane, but that is the least of my problems right now.

  4. Duane and Kristina

    Wow.. I just found your story on You Tube.. AMAZING! God also restored our marriage after being completely shattered. I would love to use your video on my blog tomorrow for Testimony Tuesday. Thanks so much for sharing your story…. ~Kristina

  5. nadia

    Your story is my story and the Lord used your testimony through your book to radically transform my heart. Cheryl, I am in that season that you went through where the Lord is teaching me – day by day – what it means to find wholeness and sufficiency in Him alone. You were right when you wrote that ultimately, it was not about reconciliation or "God's plan", but about desiring Him above all else. We have to let Him satisfy our souls & make us whole before we have anything to share. I keep your book on my nightstand and it is a continuous source of encouragement to me as I walk in obedience to the Lord. Thank you for your transparency & your obedience to His calling on your life.

  6. Pam

    Its so ironic that you said that Nadia about the ultimate plan is a relationship with Him. Just last week I was reading Priscilla Shirers book Discerning The Voice of God, and I came across something that jumped out at me. She says, "You know when you're seeking something other than God when you're in one of those "in-between" stages where nothing seems to be happening and God doesn't seem to be speaking, so you stop pursuing Him. This indicates that you are more interested in what you think He can do for you than you are in knowing Him in order to have an intimate relationship with Him. To discern Gods's voice, you have to get your priorities straight. You have to want Him,His glory, and a relationship with Him more than you want anything else.That evening before I went to bed, I also keep Cheryl's book on the night stand to reread before I go to bed. I happened to open it up to the part where she talks about the same thing. God wants us to desire Him more than anything else. I get so caught up in wanting to restore my marriage that I loose sight of this very thing. I also believe the problems in my marriage were more about me and God than my husband and I.

  7. Anonymous

    Is is just me, but is this one of the most encouraging books on the market! Other awesome books such as sacred marriage, hope for the seperated etc… Are brilliant, but this one is just powerful! At times those otherbooks make me cry and feel overwhelmed by the fact that there is nothing there to build on or apply in human terms,but in this book, I see a testimony of Gods supernatural power and miraculous works! This book may not teach meany thing about psychology, but in my life it overcomes the enemys lies by the witness of the blood of thelamb and the power of their testimony! Amazing! My case is hopeless, but I can't deny what God has told me, like Cheryl I can't escape it either! 🙂

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