We come in contact with hundreds of couples each year through our ministry, and one common denominator always reigns as a common thread to the majority of problems and issues that arise. What could that be you say? What would your answer be? Communication? Well, that is a big one. But one underlying factor trumps this one………….
It is the lack of being a servant in our marriage. Jeff and I have been studying one verse in the book of Romans that has spoken volumes to us this week! We have not even made it past verse one…. that reads (Romans 1:1), “Paul, a servant of Christ Jesus, called to be an apostle and set apart for the gospel of God……” Keep in mind, that Paul, before his Damascus Road experience, was the son of a Pharisee, well-educated in a well known university, and from a well to do family. When the “blinders” came off of him, he became one of the greatest servants of Jesus there ever was!
So how do I serve my spouse? Let’s start by asking ourselves these questions, and once we do we will come to grips with how we really serve our spouse: Do I love Jesus? Are my thoughts constantly occupied with him? Is he at the forefront of my mind in all things? Is he the center of my life? When we talk to one another, do we speak often of him? Are we content to let the honors of the world pass by, so long as we can be known as Christ’s servants? Is my chief function in my marriage service to my spouse and family? What does that look like?
So give this some thought. Ponder what Romans 1:1 is saying, and let’s have a discussion!