The Silent Dying Heart……

Do you know how many marriages are falling apart around you? Tons! Is yours one of them? Does anyone know?

Do you realize your marriage can be different…loving, exciting, mature, peaceful? Do you realize that God created marriage and He wants you to have it abundantly?

You may be silently dying inside………
You may be secretly contemplating an affair……
Maybe you’re in one…….

From my heart to yours, share your burdens with someone, especially your spouse……You will never be able to begin healing until it is all out in the Light. Your marriage can be different…it really can. I never thought mine could be different, fulfilling, deep and fun… and it is…….

Write to me and let’s talk….

Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, and Biblical counselors, not LPC's. Their writings include the widely used book I Do Again, which chronicles their thirty-year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and remarriage to each other. Jeff and Cheryl are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in Dallas. They speak at conferences and weekend worship services in churches across the nation, sharing their love story of hope, redemption, restoration, and God taking hold of their lives. See their website:

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  1. Anonymous

    AMEN! PREACH IT SISTER!!!Very well said. So many marriages ARE in trouble…..and for so many who do not feel that divorce is an option….they are just “settling for less” than God intended for them to have. HE designed marriage and HE has a plan for it…..and SURPIRSE!!! His plan WORKS!!!We finally had time to find your blog…..and it is great! May God continue to bless you two as you seek to follow Him in reaching out with God’s message of hope and reconciliation.In His Love,Frank & Judy

  2. Ramon

    So many women out there writing blogs and emotional appeals and stories, testimonies of marriage. Where are the men? I am, or so it seems, alone in this fight to pray for my marriage. I’ve been praying, fasting, reading, seeking, living alone for three years and have not seen her change her heart. She is nicer, kinder sweeter, and so on, but convinced she cannot change, will not change her mind. We were divorced 3 years ago. Satan has her mind in a vice and like those deceived, she cannot see it.

  3. Anonymous

    Thanks for writing and sharing your heart and the pain in it. Fortunately there are many men fighting and standing for their marriage….and suffering silently like you are. Ramon, pray that God do “immeasurably more than you can ever ask or imagine” (Eoh 3:20) in your marriage and “all things are possible with God” (Matt 19:26)….claim these verses and stand strong. Go to our website and listen to our testimony which may give you hope. Go to We will pray for you. Where do you live?

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