The Ebb & Flow of Marriage

Author, David Powlison, wrote some incredible words regarding sanctification that fit very nicely with the way of marriage. Sometimes we have lost hope in our marriage but God is always sanctifying us through it. Take these words to heart as you ponder your own marriage and how obedience, perseverance and endurance play a necessary part.

“You learn truth. You learn to serve others constructively,You build new disciplines. You learn basic life wisdom. You learn who God is, who you are,how life works. You learn to worship, to pray, to give time, money, caring. And you grow steadily- wonder of wonders! It’s hard going. You limp. You don’t seem to get very far very fast. But if you are trudging in the right direction, someday you will see Him face to face, and you will be like HIm. Some people crawl on their hands and knees. Progress is painful….And then there are times you aren’t moving, stuck in gridlock, broken down- but you’re still facing in the right direction….. There are times you might fall asleep in the blizzard and and lie down comatose and forgetful- but grace wakes you up, reminds you, and gets you moving again. There are times you slowly wander off in the wrong direction, beguiled by some false promise, or disappointed by a true promise that you falsely understood. But he who began a good work in you awakens you from your sleepwalk, sooner or later, and puts you back on the path. And then are times you revolt, and do a face-plant in the muck, a swan dive into the abyss- but grace picks you up and washes you off again, and turns you back, Slowly you get the point. Perhaps then you leap and bound, or walk steadily, or trudge, or crawl, or face with greater hope in the right direction.”

Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs

Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, and Biblical counselors, not LPC's. Their writings include the widely used book I Do Again, which chronicles their thirty-year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and remarriage to each other. Jeff and Cheryl are the founders of Hope Matters Marriage Ministries in Dallas. They speak at conferences and weekend worship services in churches across the nation, sharing their love story of hope, redemption, restoration, and God taking hold of their lives. See their website:

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