My heart aches today. The reality of marriages and families falling apart all around us is overwhelming. I am around it all the time being in marriage ministry and being a biblical counselor. My marriage failed once, but God offered us a second chance. And that in itself is surreal. I think the pain I feel is in the fact that most desiring to get out of their marriage do not see the whole picture. They don’t realize what the holidays will be like. They don’t realize what the visitation schedule entails. They don’t realize the emotional trauma the kids go through. Kids are resilient, right? They will bounce back. But what are we teaching them? My mom made a comment to me as I was walking out on Jeff, that I will never forget. “You kids, you never want to work hard at things.” After Jeff and I reconciled, after experiencing 7 years of divorce, I called and apologized to her. She was right. I did not want to work hard at my marriage. i was willing to throw Jeff to the curb without giving him a chance. I was willing to break the sacred history we had the opportunity to build for our girls. I was willing to throw it all to the wind.
The pain never went away during the 7 years. We never got used to the visitation schedule. The holidays were filled with the ultimate joy and the ultimate sadness. It is hard to explain.
This Christmas I ask you to search your soul. Ask God to show you His plan for your marriage. Pray and seek His face.
I really want to hear from you…… to pray for you.
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